Those of us married folks know that when we’re on the same page with our spouse regarding a particular issue, things run much more smoothly around the home. When two people stand as one, it creates harmony and makes everything better.
On the other hand, the more topics on which we and our spouse disagree, the more potential there is for friction, arguments, hard feelings and a toxic atmosphere that poisons everything around the house.
One of the issues that many spouses do not agree on is prepping. If one spouse believes it’s a good idea to be prepared for a variety of negative scenarios but the other thinks that it’s unnecessary, there are going to be plenty of unpleasant discussions on the subject. The prepper won’t be happy with how irresponsible the non-prepper is. The non-prepper will believe that the prepper is paranoid and is wasting money that could be used for something they need more immediately.
If this is the case for you, I’m going to assume you’re the prepper. Otherwise, you probably wouldn’t be reading this blog. And maybe it’s not your spouse who disagrees with you, but rather an adult child or another relative. Whoever it is, you could push your agenda on them – which you’ve probably already discovered just makes things worse – or you could try to educate them more subtly.
One advantage you have is that prepping has become much more mainstream than it used to be – even over the past 10 years. Katrina, Sandy and a variety of other severe weather events have left millions of people without power for anywhere from a few hours to several weeks. It’s common knowledge that those who were prepared with emergency food and water supplies were much better off than those who weren’t.
Your spouse or other family member should be willing to at least have a 72-hour supply of essentials stockpiled, so start with that. Over time you can build it up without a lot of fanfare. Don’t preach about preparedness, but don’t be hesitant to show them examples of how people benefited by being prepared.
Here’s another idea. Figure out what products they use on a regular basis, and then buy them in bulk and keep them out of sight in the basement. When you hear them complaining that they’ve run out of something, go downstairs and get it for them with a comment such as, “If the stores were closed right now, you would still have what you need only because it’s stockpiled here in our home.”
Next, buy a few items that even the most resistant family member can’t fault you for, such as a fire extinguisher and a roadside emergency kit. This will plant a psychological seed that being prepared for an emergency is a smart thing to do.
Finally, if you are one of the heads of the household, you have to do what’s right for your family, even if no one agrees with you. You don’t have to go overboard, but you have a responsibility to take care of those who have been entrusted to you. If an emergency occurs and you can pull out what everyone needs, you’ll be a hero. And even if that emergency never occurs, eventually they will understand that you were looking out for their good.
Do you have a minimum of 72 hours’ worth of supplies should a crisis occur? That’s a first step everyone should take, regardless of what other family members think about it.